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Clarity – The First Step to an Exceptional Life

Uncategorized Dec 18, 2019

The key to living a high-performance life starts with clarity. You need to be very clear about WHO you are and WHERE you are, to understand who you need to be, to get where you want to go. I know that was a mouthful, but you get the gist. To be laser focused, your mind needs order. It thrives on order. Without clarity, intention and action, you are a ship without a rudder. To start gaining clarity, you first need to be clear about where you are. Begin by making an assessment of the key areas of your life – Yourself, Your Career, Your Health, Your Relationships and Your spirituality.

Rate yourself in each area on a scale of 1 to 10. Be honest with yourself. Nobody is going to see this but you, so you’ll only be cheating yourself if you’re not 100% honest. So, for example, a question I might ask myself is – on a scale of 1 to 10, Am I showing up as my “best self” in my interactions with my team? Let’s say I rate myself a 6. The next question I ask myself is – How could I make that a 9? Then I start listing out the things I need to do to improve my score. Let’s build on this idea. In the area of showing up as my best self with my team, I’ve identified that one of the reasons why I’ve rated myself as a 6 is because I need to be more engaged and present in conversations. The next thing I do is ask “how” can I be more present and engaged in conversations – I then start listing the things I can do to improve in this area.

Once you have an idea of where you are starting it’s important to get clarity around the future in a few key areas. Self, Social, Skills and Service. One of my mentors for the last several years has been Brendon Burchard. The principals in his book, High-Performance Habits, have been instrumental in helping me gain a ton of clarity in my life. As part of my weekly routine, I use his clarity chart.

So, starting with area of Self – I ask myself what are 3 words that describe my best self.

Then I ask – What are some ideas for how I can embody these words more often in the upcoming week?

Next, in the Social area – I ask myself what are 3 words that define how I want to treat others.

Then I ask – Who are the people in my life whom I could improve my interactions with this week?

Next, in the Skills area -I ask myself what are the 5 skills I’m trying to develop most in my life right now.

And then – What are some of the ways I can learn or practice those skills this week?

And lastly in the Service area – I ask myself what are 3 simple ways I can add value to those around me this week

And then – What is something I could do this week with real focus and excellence to help someone else?

Now, you want to put feeling and emotion around all of this. So, I also state the main feelings I want to cultivate in my life, relationships and work this week and the ways I’ll work to generate those feelings.

I then take a few minutes to get clear on what is meaningful to me by asking myself, what is something I can do or create this week that will bring more meaning to my life?

I know this sounds like a lot, but the weekly practice of clarity has truly been responsible for my success. In contrast, I can point directly to the source of any failures or frustrations when clarity was lacking. This is one of those concepts where putting the time in up front, pays dividends on the other end. When you have clarity, your brain looks for the things that will get you where you want to go. It’s an amazing thing!

If you’re interested in learning more, check out this free download of The 6 Secrets of the Highest Performing Leaders.



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